Every woman deserves to feel beautiful and sexy.
If you’re in a long-term relationship the spark can dim a little over time, to relight the flame the quest is not about impressing the other person. The best thing you can do is love and appreciate you, the most attractive and magnetising people radiate joy and happiness.
You don’t have to be in a relationship to make yourself feel special. If you’re wanting to attract the perfect partner, do things that make you feel sexy and confident. As they say like attracts like so if your exuding sensuality, you’ll attract sensuality.
Beauty is an experience and sexy doesn’t have to be provocative, you can evoke sexiness through the scent of a perfume, the feel of fabric or the allure of a colour.
Here are five ways to express your sexy side for a sensory overload.
Aroma is a powerful way to draw someone to you if you smell good, or, move away from you if you smell bad! It’s been scientifically proven that you can be attracted to someone based on how they smell. In fact, some of the most alluring smells for excitement and arousal are vanilla, rose, citrus, mint and chocolate. Introduce these fragrances through perfumes, body lotions and scented candles.
There’s nothing more sensual than hearing a loved one whisper sweet nothings in your ear. Sometimes we don’t have the words we want to say, luckily there’s songs that can say it for us. The R&B genre is full of love tunes to get you in the mood such as Too Close by Next and I’ll Make Love To You by Boys II Men. 70s hit Feel Like Makin’ Love by Bad Company, or 80’s classic Sexual Healing by Marvin Gaye, there’s also 90s ballads such as All I Want To Do Is Make Love To You by Heart or I Touch Myself by The Divinyls or more recent tunes like Your Body Is A Wonderland by John Mayer.
According to Encyclopedia Britannica “On average, the human tongue has 2,000–8,000 taste buds”. That equates to a whole lot of receptors and oral sensations. To stimulate your taste buds the most well-known food aphrodisiacs to increase sexual desire and pleasure are oysters, chilli and chocolate.
Nerve endings and touch receptors are responsible for our sense of touch. Touching of sensitive erogenous zones is a sure way to heighten the senses, try gentle touching on the nape of your neck, lips and hands. Our entire body is sensitive to temperature and this can have an effect on your sexual performance. The optimum room temperature for between the sheets depending on your personal preference is between 19-21 degrees Celsius. When it comes to touch you can play with different textures. Lingerie is great for this as you can choose luxurious silky fabrics or soft lace. To spice ‘sleep’ time up try satin sheets.
Visual stimulation is a definite way to get the blood pumping, when you look sexy you feel sexy. Wear styles that enhance your figure and make you feel beautiful. Aim to enhance the parts of your body that make you feel good, it could be showcasing your shoulders, highlighting your waist or showing a little leg. Wearing certain colours can stimulate arousal. Red can excite, black adds mystery, pink’s perfect for flirting and white embodies innocence. Wear a matching lingerie set under your clothing to help you feel sexy no matter what you put on top.
The journey of self-discovery and self-love includes the exploration and stimulation of all your senses. This will give a new appreciation of yourself and as a bonus enhance your erotic experiences. Knowing what you like gives you an inner sense of confidence and there’s nothing sexier than that.
Is your wardrobe stuck in a previous decade?
As we enter a new decade it's fascinating to ponder styles that influenced us in previous decades. As they say what goes around, comes around and even with fashion that’s the way the story goes.
In fact, fashion history repeats itself every 7-10 years. For example, a peplum (gathered fabric at the hip that creates a frill effect) dates back to ancient Greece but it made a comeback in the 50s and has been in and out of fashion since. Another reinvented fashion trend, tie-dyed fabric was made popular in the 60s had a return in the 90s.
We all have a tendency to reminisce about the past. This reminds me of a South Park episode, where all the people are given "Member Berries" to eat so they can become nostalgic and remember another time. This puts the characters into a hypnotic state, so they are not living in the present and don't notice all the things going on around them.
This is so true in life, we often reflect about when we were younger, skinner and maybe trendier. This is reflected in our wardrobes, we keep clothing that we've outgrown physically, emotionally and spiritually. As we head into a new decade it’s the perfect time to review and renew your wardrobe, so it reflects who you are in this present moment.
Below is a snapshot of how we’re being influenced from previous decades and how to introduce these rejuvenated looks into your 2020 wardrobe.
Printed pants are a great way to add flair to your wardrobe, pair with a block colour top and simple accessories.
Jeans are my go to wardrobe item, I love that they are so versatile and can be worn in so many different ways. You can change the look from casual with flats to dressy with heels.
Here's some inspiration on co-ordinating your printed dresses with accessories x
Boho is all about comfort, however this can sometimes lead to shapeless items that hide the body. To highlight your waist and create shape to these floaty styles tuck in your top or add a belt to your dress.
How to wear animal print
Animal print is a fashion trend that people either love or loath. Personally I love how leopard and snake in particular can add a little bit of drama and sexiness your look.
This season there is everything from tops and dresses to shoes and accessories available.
How to choose the perfect one for you?
How to create a stylish casual outfit with a shorts
Shorts are my go-to weekend item especially in warmer weather. They are the perfect thing to wear outdoors, whether it’s to attend kids’ sports or a casual breakfast with friends or family.
Step 1 - Choose your shorts
This season there are plenty of styles to choose from. There's denim in every shade and colour. From printed styles such as floral and checks to a multitude of lengths from knee length Bermuda, mid-thigh length and short shorts.
Step 2 - Pick your top
You could choose a printed blouse or a long sleeve button up that you can tie in a knot. Alternatively, you could wear a simple t-shirt. With a printed pair of shorts, you can add colour. Black and white print will look great mixed with yellow, red or watermelon.
How I stopped loathing and started loving shorts
Shorts were one of the many things that I never liked to wear. I used to worry about being too pale, too big and too short. If let my inner mean girl win, I would never have worn a pair of shorts. I learned to hush the negative voices and instead focus on the positives. This has allowed me to wear shorts with confidence and style.
If you’ve ever felt too pale, too big or too short here’s how I overcame these objections to wearing shorts: