What is self-love?
I used to think self-love was bubble baths, beauty salons and naughty desserts. Now I see that these are wonderful ways to pamper yourself however I've discovered that true self-love is having a positive internal dialogue.
I’ve read in countless books about how our thoughts and feelings affect our actions. I just didn’t know how to control my thoughts and feelings. It was as if there was a negative nagging train going around in my head, telling me all the reasons why I wasn’t good enough or worthy.
At one point I was sick of the noise and wanted it all to stop, I prayed for a miracle and suddenly I was led like Alice down the rabbit hole.
Like the moon we can only see it from our perspective, even at its fullest we’re only seeing half of it. I want to share with you that instead of trying to control our thoughts and feeling we can see them from a different perspective, I consider this a miracle.
Freedom from Guilt
What do you feel guilty about?
It could be little things like having cake for breakfast? Or bigger things forgetting to pick your child up from dance for 2 hours, telling your injured child their foot will be better in the morning but turns out it was broken in 3 places. I’ve done all of these things and much worse…
As a mother guilt seems constant, it’s the feeling that no matter what you do for your family it’s never enough. You don’t have to be a mum to feel that life is some kind of juggling act with work, paying the bills, cleaning the house, eating healthy food, exercising.
There’s this constant sense of guilt that we’re not keeping up with all our roles and responsibilities.
Guilt masks itself in other ways too like, feeling responsible for situations or people’s actions that are out of your control.
The guilt where our actions have caused someone pain, is probably one of the hardest to let go of.
Sometimes there's an underlying feeling you’re guilty even when you're innocent. Like when you're driving and see a police car behind you, suddenly you feel guilty but haven't done anything wrong.
Holding onto negative feelings such as guilt is like injuring yourself and not giving your body time to heal.
Recently I sprained my ankle, in the past I would’ve pushed through, had some pain killers and pretended nothing was wrong. Like the time I refused to go to the doctor for back pain. After a couple of weeks, it got to the point where I could barely stand, reluctantly I went to the GP and was sent straight to the hospital where I was admitted for the next 3 days with a severe kidney infection.
This time with my injured ankle, I rested, I felt the frustration, the guilt and I let it go.
When emotions build up it’s like internal storm, our perception can become so clouded that we act irrationally.
When we give ourselves permission to feel our feelings, we can respond instead of react. In turn we can gain a different perspective on what is really happening.
There are heaps of techniques to help us move through emotions such as EFT which a tapping sequence, I really enjoy Brad Yates YouTube tutorials.
There's another technique I enjoy called focusing. It's a simple 6 step process that helps you to become the witness of your emotions. I've found I can move through my feelings quickly and know the right course of action.
You can go through the exercise with me in the above video or read more about the Focusing technique here.
The greatest gift you can give yourself is time. Time to heal, forgive, nurture and love yourself.
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