For years, I was sceptical of psychics and mediums, often trying to explain away dreams, visions, or voices as mere coincidences. It wasn't until my own experiences changed my perspective that I began to believe these encounters were real. I've been working as a psychic medium, specialising in evidential mediumship, for over four years now. This approach focuses on providing specific, verifiable information.

Recently, the loss of loved ones reminded me how challenging it can be to connect during grief. In December, my favourite uncle passed away, and just a few weeks ago, in April, we lost my dear father-in-law. Grief can make it difficult to feel their presence, but through acceptance, I've found it easier to connect with them. It takes time and practice, but the comfort and guidance they offer are worth it.

Insights on the Afterlife

​Being a psychic medium doesn’t make me immune to grief. However, I find immense comfort in knowing that there is life after death. Some of the most profound lessons I’ve learned have come from my own loved ones who have communicated with me from the other side.

Messages through dreams: My mum's brother, Uncle Gary (my favourite), after his passing came to me in a dream. He was dancing, looking happy and free, which brought me comfort. I felt the presence of many spirits at his funeral, including my Nan and Pop. I asked them what they were doing there, and they explained that they were learning about the impact of Uncle Gary’s life. They conveyed that every action, from raising children to being a good friend, and even a simple smile to a stranger on the street, was acknowledged as a form of impact.

Connection through meditation: A few years ago involved my uncle Paul, who was mentally impaired from birth and lived in England. I had only met him a few times in my life, so I was surprised when he visited me during a meditation. He appeared completely healed, wearing a suit, and wanted to let me know that he was doing well and was looking out for me. When I asked my dad why his brother would show up in a suit, he explained that Uncle Paul always loved wearing suits. This detail, which I had no prior knowledge of, reinforced the truth of the connection.

Connection through conversation: The recent passing of my husband’s father was a massive shock to us all. I immediately tried to contact him but was told he was busy catching up with his late wife, mother, father and sister. He needed time in what I understood to be a sort of retreat to adjust to his new state. After almost a week, he communicated with me, jokingly saying, “Who’d have thought I’d be speaking to you like this?” His humour came through straight away, this provided much comfort to my husband and myself. 

Connecting with the spirit world are like speaking another language. Each of us has our own communication strengths. For me, I can hear, see, and sense the messages. These experiences continually remind me of the profound connections that transcend physical existence and provide solace in times of grief.

Signs from Loved Ones
If you’re navigating grief, remember that our loved ones continue to watch over us, sending signs of their presence and love. Here are a few signs and ways to foster this connection:

• Birds and Butterflies: Seeing a bird or butterfly at a significant moment can be a sign from your loved one.
• Rainbows: A rainbow can serve as a beautiful reminder of their presence.
• Songs: Hearing a particular song on the radio can be a message from beyond.
• Meditation: Spend quiet time in meditation, focusing on your loved one. This can help you feel their presence and receive their messages.
• Journaling: Writing down your thoughts, memories, and any signs you believe are from your loved one can strengthen your connection and provide comfort.
• Letter Writing: Write a message directly to your loved one, it can be immensely healing, offering a way to express your feelings and maintain a dialogue with them.
• Creating a Sacred Space: Dedicate a small area in your home to your loved one, filled with their photos, belongings, and anything that reminds you of them.

If you have any questions or need support, please don't hesitate to reach out. Together, we can find comfort and connection, even in the face of loss. I've also created "The Spirit of Grief," a compassionate guide designed to bring comfort and insight to anyone navigating the heartache of losing a loved one. You can download it for free here. 

Much Love, 
Gerlinda xx

Emotions are a potent force in our lives. They drive our actions, shape our relationships, and influence our well-being. Despite their impact, many people struggle to harness their emotional energy effectively. Mismanagement of emotions can lead to mental exhaustion, misunderstandings, and unhealthy patterns of behaviour. However, with a conscious effort and the right tools, one can turn this emotional energy into a catalyst for personal and even spiritual growth. 

Before you can transmute your emotional energy, you must first understand the range of emotions you're capable of experiencing. Emotions aren't just "good" or "bad"; they exist on a spectrum that includes a variety of feelings from joy to sorrow, and anger to love. Each emotion serves a purpose, providing valuable insights into your needs, desires, and boundaries. 

To understand your emotions better, you must first accept them for what they are—natural, human responses to external and internal stimuli. Suppressing feelings or failing to acknowledge them can lead to emotional outbursts and increased stress levels. Own your emotions, and you'll find that it's the first step in gaining control over them. 

Mindfulness is the practice of being present in the moment, and it can be particularly helpful in understanding and harnessing your emotional energy. Practising mindfulness allows you to observe your feelings without judgement, which is crucial for the next steps in this emotional mastery journey.

Practical Steps

1. Pause and Breathe: Whenever you feel an emotion rising, pause for a moment. Take deep breaths and try to isolate what exactly you're feeling.
  
2. Identify the Source: Trace the emotion back to its source. Was it a comment from a colleague? A childhood memory? Identifying the source provides you with a base to work from.
  
3. Challenge Negative Emotions: Self-doubt and fear often stem from negative inner voices. Challenge these perceptions by questioning their validity. Are they facts or just limiting beliefs?

Transformative Techniques 

Writing:
Journaling can be an excellent tool for harnessing emotional energy. Writing down what you feel helps in clarifying your thoughts and identifying patterns. You can also track triggers and your reactions to them, providing actionable insights.

Movement:
Physical activities like exercise or even simple stretches can be excellent ways to channel emotional energy. Physical exertion releases endorphins, which naturally elevates your mood and gives you a new perspective on troubling emotions.

​Mindfulness:
Meditation, yoga, and other spiritual practices can provide you with a sense of balance and calm. These activities not only promote physical well-being but also facilitate emotional and spiritual growth.

Redirect Emotional Energy into Purposeful Action:
Once you've mastered the art of understanding and accepting your emotional energy, the next step is to channel it into constructive outlets. Use your newfound emotional intelligence to foster better relationships, set healthy boundaries, and pursue your passions.

Transmuting your emotional energy is an ongoing process that requires commitment and practice. However, the rewards are well worth the effort, as you'll find that your relationships, mental health, and overall well-being improve significantly when you learn to master your emotional self. Remember, emotions are not obstacles but guides on your path to personal and spiritual growth.

Much Love, 
​Gerlinda xx

Disclaimer/Trigger Warning: This blog post discusses themes of emotional and verbal abuse which may be distressing for some readers. Please prioritise your well-being when choosing to read on. If you are experiencing or have experienced abuse, support is available, and you are not alone.

Each of us has defining moments in our lives, chapters that shape our journey and impart lessons learned the hard way. Here’s my story, which speaks not only of the challenges some of us face but also of the strength and resilience that lie within.

It began with a spontaneous night out, leading to waking up in a hotel room alongside someone I had just met. His morning compliment, "You’re so beautiful," might have been charming, had I not woken up with a dishevelled appearance. But what started as a mere compliment turned into a day filled with them. We spent the day together, and I was showered with flattering remarks I had unknowingly longed to hear. Each gesture, each compliment seemed like a promise of a brighter tomorrow.

Our relationship took off at lightning speed. With promises of eternal love, whirlwind dates, and extravagant gestures, it felt too good to be true. And perhaps, it was. A proposal came within a month, and we were wed a year later. However, the honeymoon phase faded swiftly. Alcohol unveiled a darker side to my partner, one that frequently reduced me to feeling worthless with cutting words and sharp rebukes.

Yet, eight years and three children into our marriage, a revelation awaited. Behind the four walls of our picturesque home lay a world filled with emotional and verbal abuse. But hope arrived in the form of therapy, encouraged by a caring friend. The sessions were transformative, illuminating the depth of the abuse I had endured and emphasising the importance of self-love and self-worth. In the end, I had enough self-love left to leave.

Sharing this is very difficult; it touches deep vulnerabilities. I sobbed the first time I was shown the violence wheel. As I read each section, I realised that was the life I had been living for over eight years. Caught up in a cycle that I couldn’t seem to escape. The violence I experienced wasn’t external but internal. The wounds he inflicted during our marriage were deep on the inside.

He never punched me, broke my bones, or made me bleed, although I was scared one day he would. At 24, I had three young children and a husband who would blame his explosive temper on work, the kids, alcohol but mainly he would blame me. Everything was my fault, at the time I honestly believed I couldn't do anything right.

I was told I was a hopeless driver, cook, cleaner, mother. I was called a slut, a whore, a bitch, and worse. I was told what to wear and how to act. I needed his approval for everything, down to the brand of butter we bought. It got to the point I didn’t know who I was anymore.

All I knew was fear, I feared his outbursts and rages, I feared him killing himself, I feared him killing me but what I feared more was the life I was exposing my children to. I did not want my son or daughters to think it was okay to treat anyone or be treated the way their father treated me.
I tried so many times to leave only to return with the promise he would change. Something within me knew he would never change. But still, I stayed believing that I was lucky that he loved me, who else would?

With the support of my family, I decided 'this time' I would definitely leave. I packed my most prized possessions in the car, went upstairs to grab one last thing and that is when he assaulted me. This was the first and last time he would physically hurt me.

He shoved me against a wall, my head smacked hard against it. I was left with countless bruises all over my arms where he had held me tight. I pushed him off with all my strength and turned to see one of my prized possessions staring at me. My son had gotten out of the car to look for me.

I’ll never forget the look on my seven-year-old boy’s face. The look of fear, sadness, anger, and confusion all rolled into one. That look was exactly how I felt for eight long years. My children gave me the strength I needed to stand up for them and myself. Due to this I was able to give a statement to police. As my son witnessed the domestic violence, the police were able to issue my now ex-husband a court summons for a DVO. After this, he moved overseas and we had no contact.

I left with nothing except a few clothes and photos. I had to rebuild my entire life. What I got to keep was far more precious and irreplaceable, our beautiful kids. They have grown into very happy, well-adjusted adults, reflecting the strength and resilience I could only dream of.

My journey through these dark times led me to my current work as a psychic medium, self-love coach, and personal stylist. It taught me the importance of setting boundaries and nurturing self-love, allowing me to guide others in their paths to healing and empowerment.

​If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, don’t keep it a secret. Speak out. There is hope, and you are stronger than you think. You deserve a life filled with love and respect. Embrace your story as a stepping stone to a brighter, self-empowered future.

Much Love, 
Gerlinda xx