Recently I stood on the scale for the first time in years, I was shocked at the number. To begin with I was really disappointed and depressed. Then I was motivated to become conscious of how I was treating my body.
Over the past few years I’ve definitely been ‘treating’ my body to all sorts of delicious food, good tasting wine and lots of time spent relaxing. This indulgent way of life had an implication on the fit of my clothing and how I felt when I looked into the mirror.
How do you feel about your body when you look in the mirror?
Is it a 10, there’s nothing you’d change? Is it a 5-7, generally happy but there’s room for improvement? Are you closer to a 1 and think switching bodies would be a good option?
How you rate yourself is related to your body beliefs. These thoughts are based on what you’ve been told, taught and teased about. We’re told what ‘perfect’ looks like by the media, celebrities and society. We’re surrounded by images of beautiful bodies, it’s natural to compare ourselves. Then on top of this we’re taught and teased about our differences.
At age 12 I asked my dad if he thought I was fat, he replied “you’re a little bit chunky”. My dad is a loving father and am sure at the time he didn’t realise that ‘a little bit chunky’ was going to stick in my head for a very long time.
Like almost every woman I’ve been teased. People have commented on my short stature, my big lips, my frizzy hair and the size of my boobs. I hated my boobs as they caused unwanted attention from boys.
Scarily at age 16 I developed a breast lump that was removed and thankfully wasn’t cancerous. This scare made me realised the awful way I was talking to my body. I believe these negative thoughts had a direct impact to the creation of my lump and since then I’ve spent my life learning how to better love me.
One way I’ve learned to let go of these negative body beliefs is by writing down all the things I was told, taught and teased about, then destroying the paper through fire, ripping it into little pieces or simply throwing the paper in the bin. This is a very cathartic exercise and helps to practice non-judgement towards myself and the forgiveness of others.
Through simple clearing techniques and self-love rituals I’ve been learning to accept me for me. In my case I’ve been able to turn some of the teasing into a positive perspective. The truth is I am short and always looking up, I think of my big lips as full and pouty, my fizzy hair is cute and curly and my boobs are beautiful.
Now I’m off treat myself to some delicious nutritious food and relaxing exercise.
Love and Light,
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